As humans, we often convince ourselves that the issues in our lives are out of our control. We often think that things happen to us because we have terrible luck, or must have been a terrible person in our last life. I’ve heard plenty of times people say “I don't get it I'm such a nice person, why is there always a black cloud over my head?”
Here is the question that I pose to you: “Are you the problem or are you the solution?” At first glance it would be apparent that the problem is everyone around us. For example, how many times have you said this: “It’s my boss’ fault for not paying me enough, that’s why I’m not rich.” How about this: “If only I were to win the lottery, I would be a good person, volunteer more,
and finally be able to be happy.”
Are you allowing your excuses to dictate your life? Are you constantly trying to shift blame and do not take ownership for your actions or your life? As humans, we are naturally lazy. We like to be comfortable, like to do things the easy way, and like to make ourselves the victim (put the blame on others). Think about the last time someone called you out on your bull$h**, you most likely became defensive and immediately closed them off. You then probably held a grudge against this person calling them a bad name, trash talking them, and refusing to speak to them. Here’s the issue with that, you haven’t corrected the behavior and the issues still exist. Step one is identifying what the issue(s) are. More often than not, the issues that affect us on a daily basis, were either created by us directly or were created by us not dealing with the issue when it was small and minor and allowing it to grow and metastasize. Re-read the last sentence and keep this in mind, more of than not--the issue is YOU. Step two is coming up with a solid game plan to correct the behaviors, this might involve you do some research, hiring a professional to help you, take a seminar, read books/literature, listen to audio books on the topic. Step three is execute (this is probably the most difficult part of the process but is the most important). If step three is not working out, revisit step two, monitor and adjust your plan, and back to execution. In the wise words of the motivational speaker Les Brown, “If you do what is easy, your life will be hard. If you do what is hard, your life will be easy.” The choice is yours--it always is.